Looking back on the past years, people of each era have their own marks.

People in the 1960s advocated "diligence and frugality"

People in the 1970s called for "struggle"

In the 1980s, people began to develop "optimism" and "confidence".

People in the 1990s appreciate "expression of individuality" and "self-realization."

People in the 2000s advocated "I am who I am, with different fireworks."

I thought if I could use a certain word to describe people of different generations.

This is what most people think.

However, times are changing rapidly and life is changing with each passing day, which has also opened up a generational dividing line between growing children and their parents, creating obstacles for mutual understanding between the upper and lower generations.

Even this kind of incompatibility covers all aspects of life.

From food, clothing, housing and transportation, expression methods, living habits, to the concept of time, everything is included.

As a result, a new word has emerged in society called "generation gap".

What exactly is the generation gap?

The generation gap is essentially an inevitable product of the development of the times. It is because "the world is changing rapidly" and the two generations have different cognitions and deviations in values.

But many people don't pay much attention to this point, and only focus on the result of "you don't understand my world".

As a result, conflicts between parents and children have become more and more complicated due to a lack of empathy.

"Family wars" between two generations are becoming more common, more frequent, and more intense day by day.

Even far better than any previous historical era.

In fact, the family conflict between the old couple of the Bian family and their son Bian Jianjun is already considered good.

Because they are ordinary people after all, the consequences of major social changes are often the last to be transmitted to them.

The major differences are only about my son's life-long affairs. In other aspects of life, there is nothing incongruous for the time being.

On the other hand, if we look at those families with a higher social class, families that are sensitive to the country's reverse and social atmosphere.

This is especially true for families where parents have to stay away from their children for long periods of time due to official duties and neglect their children.

This situation is the most serious.

Huo Xin's family is a particularly typical example.

Huo Xin's father, Huo Yanping, left the capital sixteen years ago and went to live in Europe when Huo Xin was only five years old.

However, just when Huo Xing was admitted to middle school, her mother also went to Europe to accompany Huo Yanping because she was too busy at work and needed someone to take care of her.

This is the period when Huo Xin is most psychologically sensitive and emotionally complex during adolescence.

He completely left his parents and passively became a left-behind child.

For more than ten years, she and her parents lived apart from each other across the ocean.

In addition to family leave once a year, maybe once every two years, her parents will go back to China to see her.

It can be said that she will never have a chance to meet her parents again.

Even on weekdays, there are very few opportunities to make phone calls.

Because international long distance calls are too expensive these days and cannot be connected by ordinary telephone calls, you have to go to the Telegraph Building specifically.

Therefore, Huo Xin's knowledge of her parents' situation abroad was actually relayed by her aunt Huang Xinhua.

One can imagine how alienated and fragile this family relationship will become if things continue like this.

Although when a family of three is together, there will always be a scene of family reunion and love for each other.

No matter who it is, when expressing it to others, they will regard the other party as their own pride and be proud of it.

Even Huo Xin became a veritable little princess in China because of her parents.

No matter her aunt, uncle, or teachers, they all take good care of her. No matter the children in the compound or her classmates in school, they all envy her.

Over the years, everything she wears, uses, eats and drinks is the best.

When you want something, you almost never get it.

But in fact, Huo Xin and her parents, as close relatives, are spiritually far apart.

To be honest, this relationship is really abnormal.

The emotional identification with each other is essentially a formality and is completely separated.

Even though everyone knows that we should work together to maintain the blood relationship.

But I don't know why, when they are together, there is always an element of acting in their smiles, which is hard to be unfamiliar and polite.

What was particularly embarrassing was after Huo Yanping and his wife returned to China.

Although they tried their best to make up for the guilt they had felt towards their daughter over the years and reverse this unbearable situation.

But the kind of reshaping of the family relationship they expected, where the three of them could restore trust and intimacy like normal parents and children, was almost impossible to happen again.

Because if you miss it, you miss it. Some things cannot be repeated.

Huo Yanping and his wife suddenly discovered that not only had their daughter grown up, but she had also grown into something they did not expect.

Their daughter no longer needs the things they thought would make her happy.

Now, what they want to give their daughter seems to be rejected and disliked by her.

For example, before Huo Yanping and Huang Jinghua returned to China this time, they carefully selected a gift for their daughter - a small GRUNDIG cassette player from Germany.

My daughter didn't take it seriously.

Although Huo Xin took it with a smile on the surface, she also thanked him.

But she changed hands and gave it to her aunt's daughter, her cousin.

In this regard, although Huo Yanping was a little distressed that almost one month's salary and additional subsidies were gone, but it was hard to say anything.

Because after all, Huo Xin has been cared for by his sister-in-law and her family for a long time.

He originally thought that Huo Xin did this intentionally as a way of repaying the favor he received from others.

Especially seeing my sister-in-law and her family so happy about this.

He even somewhat silently appreciated his daughter's lack of stinginess.

But he soon discovered that was not the case at all.

Because the basis of Huo Xin's generosity is that she really doesn't care, rather than out of considerations of repayment and interpersonal relationships.

She herself uses a small Sony cassette player.

It is far more fashionable, smaller and more advanced than the Grundig one.

It can be pinned to the belt around your waist or placed in your school bag.

And there is also a pair of headphones.

You can listen to English and music with full concentration anytime and anywhere.

It will not be disturbed by noisy environment at all.

Especially because of the high price, Huo Yanping inquired privately and found out that it was only sold in Youyi Store, and it cost 380 yuan in foreign exchange coupons.

That's almost enough to buy a big Pioneer four-speaker.

Looking at the tapes my daughter listens to, there are almost hundreds of them, and they are all genuine tapes with no strings.

Huo Yanping couldn't help but secretly be speechless.

He couldn't help but frowned and asked, "Did you buy all these things with the money we sent back?"

Little did I know that my daughter immediately bent over with laughter.

"Dad, you look down on people too much. Since last year, I haven't touched the money you sent me. I will give you the bankbook later. Let me tell you, this is all my own money, I earned it.

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Huo Yanping found it hard to believe it.

"How much do you earn? How much is your salary?"

"Our foreign company's income is high, and my income is more than yours."

Then Huo Xin publicly expressed his disdain for German products.

"Dad, it's not me. You should not be too stubborn when looking at problems. For example, not everything in Europe is good, but home appliances are far behind. Look at that stupid, big, black and thick thing you bought from abroad in the first few years.

The TV is a Telefunken brand. It’s very dull. The picture color is not good either. Take a look at the Japanese TV. What does it look like? And where can I get the little cassette player you bought this time?

Sony is great. It would be great if you and Mom were stationed in Japan. Nowadays, your outlook on Europe has become worse..."

Huo Yanping was stunned for a while before he understood the meaning of his daughter's words.

"So you didn't like what I bought for you, so you gave it away? But it's still more than two hundred yuan anyway. Don't you feel bad for it, girl? It's too big for your hands."
To be continued...