【161】Self-help meeting
"No problem, Dr. Leng, I will definitely take good care of your friends."
After hanging up the phone, Dr. Niu received the young man who came here.
Dr. Niu is famous in a certain field and can be said to be the top authoritative expert in China. However, the field he is good at is quite special and most people have never heard of it, so few people have heard of Dr. Niu’s name.
This situation sounds weird, but it is not surprising to put it bluntly.
For example, there is a local doctor Huang. Many young patients do not know the existence of this doctor. However, in the minds of many middle-aged and elderly male patients, Dr. Huang is definitely a legendary idol. Because Dr. Huang has been treating difficult and complicated diseases such as impotence and premature ejaculation for many years, as well as difficult and complicated diseases such as lifting but not being strong, and being hard but not being straight.
Of course, there are certain differences in the areas that Dr. Niu and Dr. Huang are good at.
That afternoon, six men sat in a small club organized by Dr. Niu.
The middle-aged uncle in a white coat is Dr. Niu. His opening remark was very passionate: "A newcomer joined today. I would like to emphasize what I said to you before. Many people say that people who are addicted to drugs will be over for the rest of their lives, but I have seen people who have successfully quit drugs with their own eyes, and this person has started a new life. Sex addiction is just like drug addiction, but it is not something that cannot be quit. As long as you don't give up on yourself, you will definitely quit. I can guarantee everyone that everything will get better after you quit your sexual addiction."
Speaking of this, Dr. Niu's tone is more contagious: "The purpose of our mutual aid association is to help each other and encourage each other to achieve the goal of successfully quitting sexual addiction. In this world, others cannot understand you and look at you with tinted glasses, but the brothers and sisters in the mutual aid association will not do this. You have common experiences and you can talk about the most difficult past in your heart. Many things, as long as you dare to say it out loud, will be half successful. When you put aside your psychological pressure, throw away your invisible burden, and find your confidence as a normal person, your success will not be far from you."
After a pause, Dr. Niu directly named: "6% of the first two batches of mutual aid associations have successfully quit their sexual addiction. Li Jun, you are the last person in the third batch of members who hope to quit. Now please be the first representative to speak and let the new members see how you are successful step by step."
A vulgar uncle in his thirties immediately moistened his throat, looking very familiar with the business, and said, "My name is Li Jun, and he is 34 years old this year. I have always had strong sexual fantasies about women. When I see women with a little beauty on the street or in the office, I can't help but fantasize about putting them in many positions. When I was twenty, I had my first girlfriend. At that time, we were very wild and had to do it more than two or three times a night..."
"At first, I thought that young people were like this. Compared with those seven-time night in YY novels, I was nothing. Later, something was wrong. I found that my friends around me were not as frequent as me. My girlfriend thought that I didn't like her. She thought that the reason I was with her was to have sex. I couldn't explain this. Later, I had a second girlfriend, and she also thought that I was only interested in her body. I have never been in love again after graduating from college, but my desire for women is getting stronger and stronger. I look like this, it is not realistic to develop a one-night stand, and I can only spend money to solve the problem..."
"At that time, the price of pork had not increased, and the prices were relatively cheap. I remember that it only cost 300 yuan to find a hair salon girl to go out for a night. After a few times, I became addicted. I felt so nervous that I didn't go there for a day and felt like I was going crazy. In the long run, I couldn't afford it financially. Three hundred a day, nine thousand yuan a month, and my monthly salary was less than five thousand at that time..."
"Every day when I go to work, I miss those hair salon girls, but after I go, I feel very disgusting. Especially when I get along with them, I don't have the pleasure at all, and I don't understand why I do this. But the next day, I really want to go. In this way, I fell into a vicious cycle day by day. I'm physically unable to bear it, financially worse, and owing a lot of debts..."
"I lied to my parents several times, and each time I found a different excuse to ask them for money. Later, they found something was wrong. Once my father followed me secretly and finally discovered my secret. My parents couldn't accept me. They felt that it was embarrassing to not get married at the age of 30, and they even did such a humiliating act..."
With Li Jun's self-report, the faces of several male animals present became heavier.
"Sex addiction" in the academic community has actually existed since ancient times, and it was not until the twenty-one world that gradually attracted the attention of the medical community. "Sex addiction", also known as "orgasm addiction", is a kind of behavioral disorder, just like gambling and drug addicts.
Psychologists analyze that "sex addiction" is not only driven by sexual organs or sexual activities themselves, but its behavior is essentially an external manifestation of anxiety, or an instinctive self-evasion behavior caused by emotional setbacks or challenges. To put it bluntly, this is a sequelae of being fleeed. Sex addicts regard sex as a love band-aid. With sex, there will be no pain. Patients with "sex addiction" usually have a strong sense of insecurity.
Before sexual activities, the organization was calculated and every step was taken. After sexual activities, I felt ashamed, uneasy and empty, and even fell into deep self-blame. I knew that I might be relieved when I called it immediately, but I could get a VIP in hell after death, but they still couldn't opt until one day God stood in front of them, pointed at my watch and said GANPOVE.
The situation Li Jun said himself belongs to this disease.
Sex addiction is not only a patent for men, but also women have a share.
The most lewd sisters in the history of the Celestial Empire, Zhao Feiyan and Zhao Hede, are very colorful in this regard. The historical community has been arguing about which one is more beautiful, and those who support Xiao Zhao even clamor to change the idiom "Yan Shou Huan Fei" to "De Shou Huan Fei". However, there is one thing that needs no debate, that is Xiao Zhao's super sexual desire. Xiao Zhao is not only more beautiful than his sister, but also knows how to charm a man better. The little lady is beautiful in the harem, and eats the emperor's brother Liu Ao to death. Xiao Zhao is not only sexually addicted, but also develops "Viagra" privately and treats Liu Ao as a gusseted. After several twists and turns, Liu Ao finally has a grandmother's breast - shedding, becoming the legendary Tiancan, and is finally slaughtered by Xiao Zhao's petal.
There are countless sex addicts in the Western world. As early as the early 20th century, Vivien Leigh, a flower girl who became famous all over the world with her "Gone with the Wind" was a typical example of this.
Later in "The Street Car of Desire", Vivien Leigh played a declining aristocratic woman suffering from "sex addiction". She was revealed when she got married, and her future was ruined. This film won Vivien Leigh the second Little Golden Man.
However, there was a huge coincidence between art and reality here. On July B, 196, Vivien Leigh fell alone in front of the bedroom door and passed away.
Ex-husband Oliverton is a huge critic. This literary uncle who starred in "The Prince's Revenge Plan" turned against him angrily and avenged his previous shame. Oliver confided in his biography that he had to tell, claiming that Vivien Leigh herself is a "sex addiction" patient and needs to be too dependent on sexual intercourse. Lawrence was so annoyed that he was so annoyed. When he was about to stop, the British Chen Shimei sighed to the sky: "I'm almost squeezed out when I'm with Vivien Leigh..."
So Vivien Leigh won the reputation of her previous life and her subsequent generations in one fell swoop.
The most famous father and son Douglas in Hollywood often have a sanity at awards ceremony. In fact, Douglas is a severe patient with "sex addiction" and has officially settled down in his sixties. My hero, Douglas took over his father's gun and made a great record on the whole line. He rode his horse and did not leave a wilderness where he walked.
When Hollywood beauty Katherine Zeta Jones decided to marry Douglas, she knew that her husband had always carried the red flag against the red flag and had to set limits in the prenuptial agreement. If Douglas was unfaithful during marriage, he would lose a huge sum of $600,000.
There are also great people in the sports world who are addicted to personality, and the golf superstar Tiger Woods, who was also revealed to be a serious sex addict. This black buddy has no less than ten mistresses alone. The first half of his life is extremely brilliant, and the second half of his life is full of sexual scandals. His story is very sad.
Strictly speaking, these celebrities are actually quite a bit of a story. Celebrities have one thing in common: they are not short of money... For ordinary working-class people, if they suffer from "noble disease" like sex addiction, the ending will be really terrible. For example, Li Jun in front of him has no girlfriend and his monthly salary is just that little. Once he suffers from severe sex addiction, he will be worse than death.
At this moment, Li Jun continued to talk:
"I will never forget the look of my parents that day. Sometimes I suspect that I am born a pervert. I tried suicide and my life was not dead. When I was sent to the hospital, the doctor suspected that I had mental problems and conducted a comprehensive examination on me. It turned out that I was a severe sex addict. I didn't understand what a sex addict is. It was the same day that I realized that I was not a natural pervert, I just had a disease."
"After years of hard work, I have overcome many problems, regained my confidence, and my sexual life has been tempered. Now it is basically once every two days, which is considered to be a normal person. I have to thank Dr. Niu and the brothers in the Mutual Aid Association. Without their encouragement and support, I would not have this day."
Several patients in the mutual aid club listened to Li Jun’s remarks, and their expressions fluctuated. At the end, several of them seemed to be encouraged, and positive energy could be seen between their eyebrows. Only the young man who looked new to have a cross scar on his face was motionless, with a very calm expression, as if he was not touched by the real person in front of him at all.
Next, in order, another young man began to share his experience: "My name is Lushan, and I am 24 years old this year. Like Brother Li, I also have strong sexual fantasies about women. You don't need to laugh when you say it. I was very pure before and I never masturbated before before I went to college. When I was in my freshman year, under the influence of the boss of our dormitory, I learned to masturbate when I watched movies and masturbate. From then on, I had a nickname called masturbate three-public..."
"If I don't masturbate three tubes every day, I feel that life is worse than death, and I can't say it's uncomfortable. When I was in my junior year, I obviously felt something was wrong with me. I often felt dizzy, dazed, weak legs, and memory decline. Every time I masturbate, I feel deeply guilty, thinking that I am a beast and a pervert. But not long after, I want to masturbate again, otherwise I will be so uncomfortable..."
"I am a perfect slim and have never had a girlfriend yet. From freshman to college, I masturbate no less than three times a day. In severe cases, I have experienced bleeding. I often feel that I am helpless. If a person like me is spread, I will definitely not be accepted by women..."
"I secretly consulted online, and someone pointed out that my condition may be a sex addict. Last year, I finally plucked up the courage to confess my affairs to my family, and then they took me to Dr. Niu. Through this year's treatment, my condition has improved a little, and it's still a day. I don't know if I can quit completely, but now I have seen a little hope. At least I am much better now than I used to. I hope my experience will be helpful to everyone..."
"My name is Zhao Ming..."
"My name is Zhen Shuai..."
Next, two other patients also shared their experiences.
The new young man remained silent. He observed the four fellows and discovered an interesting phenomenon. When the four people told the indescribable secret, they felt much more relaxed.
It is probably this that gives him the courage to tell his privacy in public.
The other four people were also looking at him. They had long seen that this person was extraordinary. No matter how they looked like a low-key, luxurious and connotative, they also wanted to know what kind of mental journey this rich and handsome man had?
"My name is Gao Chao. After a while, I will be twenty-eight years old. I am also a serious sex addict..." Gao Chao's voice was very light, with a little magnetic, and it sounded particularly vicissitudes. This is a typical voice that a man with a story has, and has a certain lethality to women.
Under the comments of everyone, he was not as calm as before, and seemed to struggle in his heart. After a few seconds of buffering, he showed a self-deprecating smile, and his tone was very rough: "Actually, my name is not very harmonious. Men who hear my name will smile strangely, and women who hear my name will react even more strangely..."
The four fellows laughed lewdly, and a few simple words made them discover the difference between themselves and Gao Chao. Although they are all sex addicts, Gao Chao's grade is obviously much higher than them. The man in front of him has a special charm. Looking at his expression and listening to his voice makes them clearly feel that Gao Chao is very similar to the unruly prodigal son in the movie, and can make men admire him and make women crazy in a very short time.
After the man named Gao Chao said his opening remark, he seemed to have no scruples, and his tone became much smoother: "I talked about my first girlfriend in my first year of high school, and I naturally ate the forbidden fruit in my second year of high school. Since then, I have been addicted to that kind of thing. The price of doing this is that my girlfriend couldn't understand me. Later, some unhappiness happened and broke up with me. At that time, I was young and ignorant, and I thought I could find another girl to replace her, so I dated many different girls. When I was in college, I met another girl who I was moved by, and later... haha, she couldn't accept someone like me."
"At first, I went online to investigate my own problems. The normal sex life was B6 times a week, but I had B6 times a day. I knew I had problems, but I didn't believe in evil. At that time, my private life was very chaotic, with long-term friends, one-night stands, and some spent money to solve it. I am lucky, I have no financial problems, I am more fond of women, and I have never lacked women. This has led me to think occasionally that it's okay to just go on like this. Isn't there an old saying, "Diet under a peony flower, and being a ghost is romantic..."
"Later, things were out of my control. Eight years ago, a girl and I checked in a hotel room. As I was doing it, my eyes went dark and I lost consciousness. That was the first time I fainted. The doctor warned me that my body had severe premature aging. If this continues, my body's functions will decline to an unimaginable level. I didn't take the doctor's words to heart. After I was discharged from the hospital, my scars were healed and forgot the pain. Not long after, I fainted again..."
Speaking of this, Gao Chao looked sad and said with some pain: "I once had a great girlfriend. She was a doctor. She wanted to help me, but I chose to give up on myself and let her down..."
"Later, due to an accident, I went to a place without women and lived there for several years. At first I couldn't stand it, but later I met a kind-hearted old man who taught me a health-preserving Qigong. Since I practiced Qigong, I finally could control myself... Before my death, the old man told me that I must persist in abstinence for ten years, but I did not listen to his advice. After only seven years of persistence, I could no longer stand the temptation of this colorful world..."
"After leaving that place, I was like a stallion without reins, and I could no longer control myself. I had been in the army for three years, and I had been competing with Diao Chan for more than three years. During that period, I tried my best to indulge myself. Just two days ago, I went out to mess with a student girl..."
"Today, the retribution finally comes..." Speaking of this, Gao Chao let out a long breath, and he seemed much more relaxed to say what he said in his heart. He said self-deprecating: "Maybe because of practicing qigong, my attacks were different from before. Today, two girls and I were walking halfway, and suddenly had an attack. A stream of passionate blood rushed straight to our foreheads, cramps all over, and felt my heart twitching and about to jump out. For a while, I even felt unable to breathe.
Chapter completed!