018, Imaginary Audience

Ding Qiben was a little worried that the child felt good after reading the recent news, so he specially registered and made an appointment with the goal of "seeing" Ding Qi himself, so this consultation could not be done. But when Gao Xiaofei walked in, Ding Qi was relieved halfway, and the other party came to ask for help from the psychological counselor, rather than to see him, a "Jinghu celebrity".

Needless to say, you can make a judgment with just one eye contact. Gao Xiaofei seemed a little nervous when he entered the house. After contacting Ding Qi's gaze, he lowered his head. Everything in the psychological counseling room was very good, and it was a normal response to the helper. He did not express any meaning to take pictures of the impression he had in his heart.

This shows that this Gao Sheng either has never heard of the recent "Jinghu Ankang Hospital Incident", or has not cared much about it after hearing about it, and has no impression of Ding Qi at all. It seems that not everyone is paying attention to this incident, and many people have not deliberately remembered him after hearing about it.

The sixteen-year-old boy is estimated to be nearly 1.8 meters tall, about the same size as Ding Qi. Nowadays, the children are well-nourished and generally develop early, and their figure is still a little thin.

Ding Qi stood up and smiled gently, "Xiao Gao, right? Please sit down. Can I ask me if I have any place to help you?" He poured Gao Xiaofei a glass of water and sat down with the other party at the same time.

After sitting down, Gao Xiaofei was nervous and shy, and tidied his hair and said, "Teacher, have you noticed something wrong with me?"

In fact, as soon as he entered the door, Ding Qi found it, and put a band-tip on the back of his left hand. However, Ding Qi did not point it out, and did not deliberately look at his left hand when he spoke, but said seriously: "I haven't noticed anything unusual about you. Whether it is appearance, body shape, expression, or tone, it is normal.

The psychological problem you make an appointment to register is emotional anxiety. There are many kinds of emotional anxiety, and the reasons are different. Can you tell me yourself?"

Gao Xiaofei's reaction was not disappointed, but relieved, raised his left hand and said, "Teacher, I have a wart on my back." As he said that, he lifted the band sticker, revealing a wart the size of a soybean.

Ding Qi nodded and said, "I saw it. Did this wart cause your psychological distress? Can you tell me in detail, what does it feel like?"

The wart on the back of Gao Xiaofei's left hand grew two months ago. According to his own observation, the situation has been very stable in the past month and the wart has not become bigger. He felt very ugly. When he thought of the wart, he felt uncomfortable all over and even had difficulty sleeping and eating. He vaguely felt that he had become different. He was very worried, but he didn't know what he was worried about.

After listening to the self-reporter of the helper, Ding Qi suppressed his smile and showed a very concerned expression. This is indeed a psychological problem, and it is a typical psychological problem during adolescence. If an elderly person is worried about his health, or even doubts whether there will be cancer, etc., but the focus of this child is not on these.

Ding Qi asked again: "Why don't you go to the hospital for a check-up?" It was just a soybean-sized wart. Going to the hospital for treatment was just a small surgical procedure. Gao Xiaofei came to do a psychological counseling and paid 600 yuan, which was enough for him to deal with the wart.

Gao Xiaofei replied: "I have also checked it. It is said that the wart will be cured by itself after a while, but there is no way to prevent it, and it may grow. I also found that it is difficult to remove the roots with liquid nitrogen and laser surgery to remove the roots, and it will leave scars or pigmentation. The other method is to take medicine, but I feel that taking medicine is definitely not good..."

In fact, Ding Qi had just thought of the surgery to remove it. Although he was just a psychiatrist and not a surgeon, it was really a small operation. As long as there were simple equipment and disinfection equipment, he could now remove the wart, and he also had a surgical first aid kit for mental health.

But this is a psychological counseling room, not a surgical treatment room. He stopped thinking and asked with a smile: "These are all checked on Baidu Encyclopedia... Xiao Gao, do you have to look in the mirror many times every day?"

Gao Xiaofei was stunned: "How did you know?"

Ding Qi: "The trouble you encounter is indeed a psychological problem. Many adolescent teenagers will do this. Because you have a wart on your back, you are dissatisfied with your image. This is not just a wart, but you are troubled and don't know how to be the image you are satisfied with..."

Next is a chat-style conversation. Many people, especially men, look in the mirror without the need for reality. Adolescents may add up to other periods in their lifetime. Adolescents have a high degree of self-attention, which is an inevitable phenomenon that develops self-awareness and gradually matures.

Strong self-esteem but often lack self-confidence corresponds to the physical and mental state they often think that they have grown up, but are not actually real adults. There is a very prominent psychological phenomenon in adolescence called "image audience", which is a psychological creation of an audience that may not exist. While paying attention to themselves, they also think that others are paying attention to him or her.

When you praise yourself, you think everyone will praise you, and when you are disappointed, you think everyone will be disappointed. Such repeated emotional fluctuations often lead to inner anxiety.

The psychological characteristic of "image audience" still exists in adulthood, but it is not as prominent as puberty. When people look in the mirror without need, they are actually imagining the audience, and this mentality is not just as simple as looking in the mirror.

If an adult is stimulated, it will re-energize a strong "image audience" mentality and amplify various emotional experiences. For example, Ding Qi himself has indeed become a celebrity in Jinghu recently, but in reality, how many people really know him? After the hot spots fade, most people really remember that it is not Ding Qi himself, but in this incident, there is no irrelevant person who stares at him every day.

However, when ordinary people encounter things like him, they often feel that they are the focus of public attention, and every move seems to be monitored by others, which makes them feel stressed.

In a short while, Ding Qi will be forgotten by the public. Unless it is deliberately mentioned on special occasions, unless it is a person directly related to him or the matter, no one will take it seriously. Ding Qi is just a small psychological counselor, not the kind of public figure who is familiar to the public.

Today, facing such a 16-year-old boy in the consultation room, Ding Qi was also adjusting his mentality while doing psychological counseling.

Ding Qi and Gao Xiaofei talked about the various psychological characteristics of adolescence and the substance of troubles Gao Xiaofei felt, and finally said: "I will give you another sentence - I will be proud of my poetry and literature."

Gao Xiaofei smiled, looked at the back of his hand and said, "But I still have to treat this wart, but I'm quite afraid of going to the hospital."

Ding Qi: "You told your parents that your parents didn't take it seriously, right?"

Gao Xiaofei frowned again: "Indeed, it's impossible to communicate!"

Ding Qi tried his best to downplay: "This is indeed nothing. It's just a little wart. Your problem is a troublesome during adolescence. The 600 yuan I came to do psychological counseling this time is also the pocket money I saved in normal times, right? It seems that you attach great importance to yourself!"

Gao Xiaofei: "My parents are busy with work, but they usually give a lot of pocket money. Last year, the New Year's money was several thousand, and I can still afford it for 600 yuan."

The consultation meeting has ended, and there is actually no need to go to the next time. Before Gao Xiaofei left, Ding Qi said again: "I will give you a private advice, not the advice of a psychological counselor. I also had warts when I was a child. Someone told me to use nine-degree white vinegar to order a little bit every day, but it fell off by itself. You can try it after you go back. If it doesn't work, you should go to the hospital for a minor operation, it's very simple."

When Ding Qi stood up and said these words, he had actually left the working state of a psychological counselor. It felt good to be focused on the work, which made Ding Qi feel that he had regained his familiar self, but he also knew in his heart that this was probably the last time he had psychological counseling for his mental health at school.

When Gao Xiaofei left, Ding Qi did not go out to the office, but stood behind the door and waited. He wanted to confirm his judgment. As expected, within two minutes, the knocking sounded, and Ding Qi immediately opened the door. The door opened so quickly that Zhong Dafang, who was knocking, was startled.

Although Ding Qi guessed that this scene might happen, when it really happened, his heart sighed, with an unconcealed disappointment, and said with a blank expression: "Senior Brother Dafang, are you asking me for trouble?"

When Ding Qi first came to the mental health care class, he called Director Zhong when he saw Zhong Daban. However, Zhong Dafang shook his head exaggeratedly and told him not to call him that, and he must call him Senior Brother Dafang in the future. This Senior Brother is very generous to him and takes good care of him, just like his name.

A lot of information can be reflected from the title. For example, many graduate students now call the tutor the boss, but Liu Feng rejected the title and kept asking the students to call him the tutor. Even though Ding Qi had already confirmed a romantic relationship with Jia Jia, this habit has never been changed, whether in public or private occasions.

Today, when Ding Qi called out Senior Brother Dafang again, Zhong Dafang looked a little embarrassed, and quickly said in a concerned tone: "Xiao Ding, I didn't expect that there would be someone asking for help to make an appointment for you today. I thought you wouldn't come."

Ding Qi replied indifferently: "Since I have put my brand out, someone has to turn it over! I am also famous now, because it is good, and some people will turn it over. But today it is a bit unfortunate. The appointment just now has never heard of the incident of Ankang Hospital in Jinghu City, and he doesn't know who I am."

Zhong Dafang: "Junior Brother Xiao Ding, you seem to have misunderstood. You did not ask for leave on Monday. Putting your name on the appointment list is also a normal procedure."

Ding Qi: "Senior brother, you don't need to beat around the bush, you are all professional, no one can see through that little bit of care? If you want me to leave on my own initiative, you don't need to go around such a big bend!"

Zhong Dafang seemed to have suffered some grievance and said in a tone of resentment: "Junior Brother Ding, where do you start?"

Ding Qi looked into his eyes and said, "Aren't you here to persuade me to leave by myself? Stop finding a reason to fire me again."

Zhong Dafang looked a little flinched, but he still said: "What's the matter if you don't get expelled? Your labor and personnel relationships were originally in Jinghu University, and your mental health and mind with the school are just labor cooperation."

A hint of sarcasm appeared on the corner of Ding Qi's mouth: "I'll say it!"

Zhong Dafang hesitated: "Actually, a helper complained to you that the advice you gave was to let a woman who was no longer able to have another child, which caused great stimulation and harm to her."

Ding Qi: "You might as well say that it's Hong Guirong, why bother to hide it? Senior brother, you are also Tian Qi's appraiser. Have you had contacted Tian Xianglong and Hong Guirong in private?"

Zhong Dafang looked slightly shocked, then changed the topic and said, "Xiao Ding, can we go in and sit down and talk."

Ding Qi replied simply: "No, stand here and talk, or don't say it!"

Zhong Dafang looked at the corridor without anyone else, and lowered his voice and said, "Xiao Ding, I know you are in emotions. But you should have heard of yesterday's meeting. The school leadership team specifically pointed out that the heart should make the heart's own decision based on the school's handling opinions on you. Do you still don't understand what it means? This is not that I want to make things difficult for you...

Before he could finish speaking, Ding Qi interrupted: "The tutor is still here, when did Senior Brother Dafang become the head of Benxin?"

Mental health is separated from the school's affiliated hospitals. Although it belongs to Jinghu University in terms of administrative relations, it is independent in management. In terms of personnel, Jinghu University is only responsible for appointing the leadership team of the Heart. As for the employment of doctors and nurses, they are all independent in mind.

It is impossible for school leaders to directly hire counselors and psychiatrists. On the one hand, because heart is an independent institution, and on the other hand, because such matters are too professional, so laymen really can't interfere.

Therefore, Jinghu University can directly expel Ding Qi from the teacher team and his academic status, but cannot directly dismiss him from mental health. From the procedure, this should be a decision made by mental health. According to the school leaders have already given instructions at the meeting, it is inevitable that Ding Qi will be dismissed, but there is no need to be so anxious, let alone Zhong Dafang jumped out.

Ding Qi clearly didn't want to have a good chat, but Zhong Dafang was not angry. Instead, he continued to explain in a low voice: "Our tutor is a rare good tutor. He has always taken care of students so much. How could he be able to do such things? But the school leaders have already given instructions and have to do it. This is embarrassing the tutor!

I know that it is difficult for the mentor to deal with it. I can't let the mentor offend the school leaders, nor can I let the mentors take the blame to expel their students, so I can only be this evil person. After being taught and cared for by the mentor for so many years, we should also share his worries..."

Ding Qi sneered and interrupted, "Do I call you a good senior brother in China? The instructor has not had time to do it yet. You rush to do it. You will really share the worries of the leader! But you are not taking responsibility, it is clearly a destruction. I thought that only people who caused the insult to the fall were Tian Xianglong and Hong Guirong, but they didn't expect that they were you. How should you say hello to you, praise you as a good leader, a good student, and a good subordinate?"

This is equivalent to pointing at the nose and cursing people. Zhong Dafang's psychological quality is really good. He seems to have not had any worries with Ding Qi at all, or he is a slutty face, and he still whispers: "It's purely from a professional perspective. Mental health is not suitable for hiring you again. I think you understand the reason..."

Zhong Dafang explained for a long time, and Ding Qi only sighed in his heart. In fact, he knew that he would be dismissed by Xin, but only at what time and in what way. In the opinion of mentor Liu Feng, if Zhong Dafang had found him in person in a few days and had a good talk, Ding Qi would not have made the mentor embarrassed and he would have left.

Moreover, his labor and personnel relationship is not about mental health. As long as his heart no longer arranges his appointment and registration, he will not come to the class in the future. Naturally, this kind of employment relationship will be terminated, and no one needs to be embarrassed. However, Zhong Dafang was too anxious and took the initiative to take on this matter. On the one hand, it may be to please the school leaders, but on the other hand, the reason may not be easy to say.

As a psychological expert, Ding Qi would not think about everyone around him for nothing. It was so tiring. It was not until today that he realized that this senior brother did not like him. He was afraid that from the beginning, he would reject him deep in his heart. This mentality had been suppressed for several years without realizing it.

Zhong Dafang is one of the earliest doctoral students led by Liu Feng. He is now the second-in-command of mental health and mind. He is also regarded as the successor of Liu Feng's major. From the perspective of Jinghu University, his professional status is second only to Liu Feng. But this is a huge difference. Liu Feng also occupies the position of Director of Heart. As long as he does not allow him to take the position, Zhong Dafang seems to have no room for improvement.

Liu Feng is like a mountain. No matter from which angle, Zhong Dafang feels that he is unable to get out of his head. In the same situation, different people feel differently. For example, Ding Qi will feel that he is protected by the big tree Liu Feng, while Zhong Dafang will feel that he is always living in the shadow of Liu Feng, and that he will not be the turn of anything that brings light and shows his face.

Liu Feng's efforts to promote and cultivate Ding Qi were significantly higher than Zhong Dafang. There was a mountain like Liu Feng in front, and Ding Qi was coming behind, and one day he would squeeze him aside. This might be Zhong Dafang's mentality. So Ding Qi could only sigh. Could it be that if he was rusted in a certain system, he could only see such a little thing in front of him?

Is something wrong with Ding Qi? Zhong Dafang is gloating? Ding Qi is not suspicious and sensitive, but he is very keen. The things he didn't expect are often just because he didn't think about it before.
Chapter completed!