272、The psychology of flirting
When Ma Xiao was talking, her body couldn't help but lean towards Ding Qi, and her hair had already swept to Ding Qi's shoulders. When she said "I felt a little regretful", she reached out and rubbed her bulging chest. At this relatively less formal moment, she also called Ding Qi Teacher Ding, which seemed very close.
Xian Hao had just left, and at this moment, he happened to walk into the door and see this scene. He didn't say anything, but just glanced coldly from the back. Ma Xiao didn't see Xian Hao, but inexplicably shivered, rubbed his chest with his hands, and his heart was really beating around.
What's going on? Ma Xiao was very confused. Of course, the terrible thing was not Ding Qi in front of him, but the sudden change in his feelings about the environment... This teacher Ding is so handsome, he is really a talented person? Ma Xiao deliberately approached Ding Qi, of course it was from Ma Yuanling's instructions. She originally thought she was very sober, but now she was a little crazy.
Ding Qi saw it and wanted to laugh for no reason. Xian Hao must have been disgusted with Ma Xiao's attitude, and suddenly scared her. Ma Xiao really couldn't stand the murderous aura, but from the result, it seemed to be counterproductive.
Ding Qi is a psychology major and has a good understanding of human autonomic nerve reactions. It is not controlled by consciousness and does not require brain thinking. This is a physiological self-protection instinct.
When you sense danger, you will be afraid, accelerate your heart, breathe faster, dilated your pupils and secrete adrenaline, which are all instinctive reactions. When people meet the object they like, they will also have the same reaction, just like being in a dangerous environment, which is also uncontrollable.
You can not understand this reaction as fear, but as stimulation and excitement, because their autonomic nerve characterization is consistent. Otherwise, you will not understand why some beauties will sit on a motorcycle that is sprinting to death, and then find a place to go with their rider boyfriend after getting off the car.
Some people say that the most real feeling comes from inner experience, but the person who says this does not understand that the brain can deceive people, and the experience comes from neural reflexes and there will also be misaligned expressions.
How did Bapurov tease the Dogs back then? The ringtone and the flesh bones are obviously different, but after establishing a neural reflex relationship, whenever the ringtone sounds, the Dogs will drool and think they are welcomed with fragrant dog food.
Why do many people like extreme sports or like to challenge some thrilling games? Let’s give the simplest example, such as roller coasters in the amusement park. Is it to find trouble? Of course not, it is actually to find this kind of experience.
Autonomous nerve reactions will release physiological signals that are in danger, which are consistent with the experience of excitement and stimulation. After being processed by consciousness, it will transform into a feeling of excitement and stimulation in the brain.
Obviously, some sport and certain situations will bring meaningless dangers to people, but in some people's consciousness, they experience stimulation and excitement, and can even rise to the level of psychological needs such as "challenging oneself". This is also another sense of Steholm syndrome.
So will autonomic nerve reactions lead to the illusion of falling in love with whom or whom? It is also possible in theory. Many experts in flirting with girls are good at this trick, which is to use the so-called "illusion of good feelings".
For example, taking a beautiful girl to go on an adventure without being too complicated. A shaky cable bridge, a glass plank road hanging high in the sky, and a hut deep in the dense forest... can all create similar effects. The feeling of heartbeat actually comes from the autonomic nerve reaction caused by fear, but when there is external factors, the brain will understand it as another signal, which can also be called a transference phenomenon in psychology.
If you want to flirt with girls like this, you must pay attention to several principles. The first is safety. This kind of safety is not only physiological but also psychological. The degree of danger sensed should not be too strong, otherwise it may leave a shadow and lead to psychological problems, which can produce autonomic nerve reactions.
Secondly, when you have such a dangerous reaction, you will feel dependent on you and be close to you. This is the principle of the so-called "feeling illusion". If a girl's reaction is not to want to get closer to you, and would rather grab the iron cable on the suspension bridge than grab your hand, then you must have made a frustration.
Of course, there is another most important condition, that is, you must have enough attractiveness or show enough attractiveness. In short, it also requires skills to do these well. There are many young men with touching emotional intelligence, even if they have created such opportunities, they cannot grasp them, which will make people more disgusted. That can only be said to be single based on their strength.
The above tricks can not only be used to flirt with girls, but also to flirt with men, but the methods are slightly different. For example, in the above situations, the young man will actually be afraid. Although it is not good to show timidity in front of the girl, his heartbeat will also accelerate. You can take the opportunity to grab his wrist and touch his pulse.
In this case, if you pretend to be frightened and lean into his arms, he will also feel like you are pounding your heart...
The serious Ding Qi certainly didn't have any intention of flirting with girls, but he was proficient in psychology. Xian Hao's murderous aura showed his target of Ma Xiao. Although it was only for a moment, Ma Xiao, who was looking at Ding Qi, was beating his heart. He had the illusion of being moved by himself. It was really ridiculous.
Ding Qi coughed and announced that the meeting would continue to begin. In fact, there were no topics to discuss, but the representative of You Huaijie raised another proposal: Given that there are too many people applying to visit Kingsoft Institute, can Chairman Ding increase the number of openings or expand the number of visitors? The people who are currently queuing for half a year.
There are three people stationed in Nanqi Community in Youhuaijie. The representatives attending the meeting are also their directors, named Song Kuizhao.
Song Kuizhao suggested that Jinshanyuan could consider opening like Jingsha Island, rather than being limited to opening once every two weeks. If it is really impossible, it would be fine for thirty people to visit at a time like Xiangshui Peak. After Song Kuizhao finished speaking, he looked around and asked, "Why do you think so?"
Some people were nodding secretly, and some people looked thoughtful, but they didn't directly agree. As soon as Song Kuizhao sat down, he had an inexplicable cold war. Before he could sit down, Xian Hao said, "This proposal is not suitable."
Song Kuizhao quickly bowed and said, "I'm just making a suggestion and discussing it at the meeting. In fact, this is everyone's hope. If Kingsoft Institute thinks it is not suitable, of course there is no need to adopt it."
Xian Hao said coldly: "If you want to make suggestions, you can find opportunities to discuss in private, but it is not appropriate to make such proposals on such occasions. You said this is everyone's hope, and I don't know whose hope it is. Can things like this be decided through meeting discussions or voting?
The charter of the Fangwai Alliance has long been decided. If you do not interfere with the internal affairs of each company, some things should not be discussed here. If I also suggest that You Huaijie be open to members of the alliance, it also claims that it is everyone's hope, are you embarrassed? Whether you open it or not, how to open the secret realm of heaven and earth depends entirely on your own consciousness and voluntary."
Xian Hao really doesn't give face. Usually, as long as he understands the worldly ways, he will not turn against others in such public meetings. This is not to say that Xian Hao is naive, but that this hole cannot be opened and he must kill the signs as soon as possible. Because everyone behind him represents an outside world, the bottom line of principle cannot be touched, otherwise he will not be able to hold a meeting together in the future.
Song Kuizhao asked Xian Hao to say this and realized that he might have been angry with the public. He quickly stood up and bowed repeatedly and said, "I am not considering this well. I apologize to everyone this time! Director Xian is right to remind you that some problems are the affairs of each Fangwai world and are not suitable for discussion at the Fangwai League meeting. I will definitely pay attention to it in the future!"
Although they all came forward to express their apology and claimed that they were not considering it carefully, Ma Xiao won the unanimous favor of everyone after apologizing, while Song Kuizhao apologized and attracted a secret contempt.
Even the person who followed and nodded secretly, when he thought about it again, he felt that Song Kuizhao's proposal was really not supposed to be. Although they also hoped that Jinshanyuan would expand its opening-up scale, it should not be done in this way.
Can it be proposed to open the secret realm at the meeting of the Fang Foreign Alliance? Of course it is not appropriate! Even if the overwhelming majority votes to vote, it is an invalid resolution. By the same token, it cannot be proposed to open the secret realm. This should not be a matter of discussion and decision by everyone.
Why is this proposal not aimed at Xiangshui Peak or Jingsha Island? Because Xiangshui Peak provides enough visitor places each time, with thirty people, and Jingsha Island does not limit the visit time. Of course, on the other hand, Jinshanyuan is unique enough, it also has a name called the Beast Kingdom, and the Beast Kingdom at the foot of the mountain is a rare place to try.
People who have not been there want to experience it, and people who have been there know the benefits. Now everyone can’t queue up, so they hope that Kingsoft Institute will increase the number of openings or expand the scale of openings.
After Song Kuizhao apologized, Ding Qi nodded slightly and said, "Director Xian is right. In the meeting of the Fang Foreign Alliance, it is not suitable to discuss such issues. This does not meet the requirements of the alliance charter. As for the scale and number of openings of Kingsoft Court, the current conditions are limited, so this can only be done.
If conditions permit in the future, we can increase the number of openings appropriately, but the scale of openings must be controlled. After entering, we will become a beast and even risk losing our self-awareness. The number of people must not be too many. This is also for the safety of visitors. When will Kingsoft Court increase the number of openings, we will also issue announcements through the Foreign Alliance in advance."
As the chairman and the head of the Jinshan Courtyard, Ding Qi has already decided on his personality, so there is no need to discuss this issue. Seeing that the time is about to have lunch, Yu Pengfei asked: "Who has anything else to say? Let's go have lunch together. I have already set a seat in the hotel opposite the community."
Ma Xiao stood up again and said, "I have another thing I want to announce."
Everyone who had already stood up and prepared to go for dinner sat down again. Ma Xiao smiled and said to Ding Qi: "Chairman, we are from all over the world. Now, people from all over the world have sent people to take turns to stay here. I think many young people don't like cooking, and they don't even know how to cook. Always order takeout or go out to eat is not a solution.
So we bought two small buildings in Jingsha Island and planned to convert one of them into a canteen. The scale is not large. The restaurant is located on the first floor and can accommodate dozens of people to eat at the same time. As for the chefs and service staff, we sent them from the catering department of Xianding Villa, and we can provide breakfast, lunch and evening meals every day..."
Before she could finish her words, everyone had already started to applaud. No one would object to this kind of thing. Yu Pengfei sat back and asked Ding Qi: "Chairman, what do you think?"
Ding Qi smiled and said, "Everyone applauds, what else do I think? Of course this is a good thing! We have to thank Jingsha Island for its contribution, but we cannot take advantage of a certain company. The official staff of Fangwai Alliance headquarters can go to the cafeteria for free, and the fees will be settled and paid by the financial department. As for the dispatched personnel of other companies, including me, please pay for the meal yourself."
This matter is indeed impossible to object, and it is actually not something that the alliance meeting can decide. People transform their own small building into a canteen, who can object? Moreover, this canteen is convenient for everyone and will definitely be welcomed. From the perspective of the foreign alliance, the headquarters staff must settle the daily meals, which is the attitude that Ding Qi can show.
As for the others who live here, they went to the "Nanqi Community Branch of Xianding Villa Catering Department" to have dinner. Whether Jingsha Island will be discounted or even free is also their own business.
Seeing everyone's reaction, Ma Xiao felt that the decision she made was correct. In her opinion, since Jingsha Island is willing to pay for 100 million yuan in sponsorship, it is certainly no problem to set up a canteen. Isn't it just that I want to have a good relationship with everyone, so providing daily life services of three meals a day may be more effective.
That afternoon, Ma Xiao happily reported the meeting to Ma Yuanling. There were two main things. The first was that the sponsorship was not accepted by the Fangwai League headquarters, and the second was that she announced that she would set up a canteen, which was warmly welcomed by members of the Fangwai League. However, Ma Yuanling's reaction made Ma Xiao very unhappy and even aggrieved.
After hearing the news, Ma Yuan was stunned for a while, then scolded Ma Xiao for not taking his own actions, and asked: "Whoever gave you the power to change a small building into a canteen without authorization? He also had to transfer people from the catering department of Xianding Villa to provide three meals a day. Have you calculated the cost? Have you paid the money?"
Ma Xiao had just explained why he made such a decision. Wen Yan replied with some dissatisfaction: "Third Brother, no matter how much the cost is, it will not exceed 100 million! Besides, we may not lose money when providing catering services..."
Ma Yuanling's tone also increased: "Women's opinion!"
Ma Xiao: "I have announced it now, but things have not been done yet. Of course, the island owner can change his mind, I will announce it again!"
Ma Yuanling seemed to be sulking, and was silent for a while before saying, "I'm not saying that this matter cannot be done, but you should not make any decisions. You should discuss with me in advance, and you must never do this again in the future! This time I will consider it first and then decide what to do. Since you have announced on behalf of Jingsha Island that you want to build a canteen, we still have to make it."
Ma Yuanling turned around and reported to Shi Liangde to work, but completely changed his tone. He told Assistant Wang who answered the phone that the 100 million sponsor, the Foreign Alliance, did not accept it, but he had already thought of another alternative, asking Ma Xiao to announce at the meeting that he decided to convert one of the small buildings into a canteen and provide three meals a day.
At Ma Yuanling, the solution that Ma Xiao came up with a sudden idea became his decision in advance, and asked Mr. Shi Liangde for advice through Assistant Wang. Assistant Wang immediately said that this idea was very good, and told him to do it well, and praised him for his thoughtful consideration, saying that he would report to Mr. Shi carefully when he turned around.
After receiving praise from Assistant Wang, Ma Yuanling couldn't help but feel a little proud after hanging up the phone, and even wanted to like him, but then he frowned and thought to himself: "Oh, why did you forget to talk about the cost? Who paid for the money to open a canteen?"
Assistant Wang found an opportunity to report to Shi Liangde. Shi Liangde nodded slightly and said, "Well, the canteen provides everyone with three meals a day, and also specially transferred people from the catering department of Xianding Villa. This idea is very good. Then Ma Yuanling is still a little bit of an idea. If you can do things, let him do it as soon as possible. In short, the level of this canteen cannot be bad, at least according to the five-star standard!"
Assistant Wang smiled and said, "Of course that Ma Island Master is good at doing things, otherwise he would have received your help from Mr. Shi, and how could he be today?"
Shi Liangde said lightly: "I didn't see it before. He was just lucky and got the inheritance of his ancestors... Can it be confirmed now that Ding Qi was not present when Jinshanyuan was opened to the public?"
Assistant Wang nodded and said, "Yes, it's already confirmed that he was still in Jinghu City at that time. But he should have gone to Xiangshui Peak the next day. The specific time was after Xiangshui Peak was opened. We arranged surveillance in the Xishui Cave Scenic Area and found that he had appeared in the area at noon Sunday and Monday morning. Mr. Shi, what instructions do you have?"
Shi Liangde waved his hand and said, "No, now we are still focusing on collecting intelligence. Fangwai League held a meeting yesterday to discuss whether to accept the 100 million sponsorship. Three companies have not made any statements. You can try to contact those three companies in private and try to give them some benefits as much as possible, as long as they can accept it."
Ding Qi was not aware of the series of reporting work behind the scenes, but he could probably think of it. Even if he was missed, the most important thing was to do his own thing. Late at night on Friday, he and Xian Hao finally came to the door of Qin Gaotai again, and Tu Zhi and Wei Fanting were accompanying him.
Last time Tu Zhi and Wei Fanting expressed their intention to actively participate in sect activities, so they took time to rush back this weekend. Ding Qi did not ask them to go to Jinshanyuan this time, but also brought them to Qingao Taichung for training, because these two people had never been to Qingaotai. Today, it was to wait for these two people to arrive at Jinghu, so they arrived at Qingaotai so late.
First climb into the hidden cave among the mountain walls, and came to the end of the cave with a flashlight. Ding Qi took out Jing Wenshi and said, "It would be better to use the method I did last time. I will bring you three in together, otherwise they will spread different places. Unfortunately, the Yaoguang Pebble is not in my hands, otherwise there would be no need to be such trouble."
With the cultivation of Fangwai's secret technique alone, the door opened by holding Jingwenshi can only be seen by himself, and others cannot see it, which is far less convenient than using the treasure of the world control. Dante Qi has another method, which can bring other people in, but the prerequisites and requirements of this method are very strict, and not anyone can do it.
Chapter completed!