"Take you to a place."

When night falls, Lin Shao takes his own initiative.

As for Xiaomu and mouse, they are no longer the two little kids who followed us behind us to smoke. Now they think that Young Master Lin and I are too old and don’t have much common language at all. After dinner, they hurriedly hooked up with the girl.

"Where to go?" I asked.

Lin Shao answered the question: "Have you ever watched "Life Forward"?"

"I've seen a few episodes." I probably understand why Mr. Lin talked to me about this topic. This guy lived a fashionable life when he was a child and became a fan of Friends. For many years, Mr. Lin has been unswervingly supporting Matthew Perry.

Lin Shao rarely discussed with him how Matthew Perry performed in the new drama, saying: "Would it be much better if you participated in that kind of psychological group?"

Life is moving forward to tell the stories between the members of the 10-person psychological mutual aid therapy group organized by the community center. From a secular perspective, the members of the mutual aid group are all weird. In fact, this theme is not new. There were plots about mutual aid groups in films and TV dramas a long time ago, and those mutual aid groups are diverse, such as drug addict mutual aid groups, sex addict mutual aid groups, etc.

I asked Lin Shao: "Does our country have such an organization?"

Lin Shao: "Why didn't there? I just participated."

I was surprised: "Really or not?"

Lin Shao: "Why did I lie to you? I said don't believe it. I searched it on WeChat, and then I added that group. The place was called "Uncle Mobilization". In fact, a group of divorced men talked to each other and shared the mental pressure. It's pretty good. We have activities every Friday, and there are no restrictions on new members. I'll take you to see it."

I said weakly: "How many times have you been there? Is it effective?"

Lin Shao: "I'm all veterans, and the effect is very good. You really have to try it."

At 7 o'clock in the evening, we arrived at a special place.

This place is very special, just like the ones performed in film and television dramas, with an empty hall surrounded by several chairs.

Before us, there were already five uncles sitting in a ball.

Mr. Lin told me that there are more than a dozen members in this self-service group, but the people who come to the weekly event are different. After all, this is not a forced event. Many members come to this place to relieve stress because they are mentally stressed or are in a bad mood recently.

When it was 7:30, no one came back. Including me and Shao Lin, the seven men unfolded the story.

This group of people gave me a very kind and easy-to-talk feeling. The oldest man took good care of my feelings at the opening remarks: "Today, a newcomer joined. The old rules are the same. Let's open our hearts first and set an example for the newcomers. I also hope that the experience we share can help this new friend."

The elder brother was not vague at all. He said that he was really an example. He shared his story on the spot: "My name is Lao Zhang, this year's forty-five. I have been married three times, got married three times, and divorced three times. I have a son and a daughter. My son is twenty years old this year, and was born to his first wife. My daughter is thirteen years old this year, and was born to his second wife..."

After such a general opening remark, Lao Zhang continued: "In 1990, I was 22 years old, and that year was my first marriage. My first marriage was arranged by my family. I only met the woman twice, and my parents asked me to marry her. At that time, I had been impacted by many new ideas and wanted to fall in love freely. I didn't agree with this marriage. My father had a breakup with me and ran away from home. Not long after, my mother asked someone to say that my father was hospitalized and was so angry that I was angry. My father had a heart attack. The doctor said that if I fainted from anger by me again, I might never wake up again. At that time, I was very scared and didn't know what I thought, so I agreed to get married."

"I said, don't laugh. At that time, I read some martial arts novels. The couple who have no feelings in the book have been married for many years and have been married. I was influenced by this novel and never met my ex-wife in the first year of marriage... Looking back now, my ex-wife is actually very good, but I rejected this marriage in my heart and always rejected her. In the first few years of marriage, I felt like I was like a living dead man, and I had no spirit at all. In 1995, my father passed away, and in the same year, I couldn't wait to divorce..." Speaking of this, Lao Zhang's voice became more and more hoarse: "I don't know what this marriage means to me. I didn't understand why I got married, nor did I understand why I divorced. There is only one thing I understand very well, that is, my son always hated me. He thought I had women outside, and I abandoned them mother and son. He had never spoken to me since he was seven years old. Until now, he has never given me a good face..."

After a pause, Lao Zhang began to tell his second marriage: "I have no women outside. After experiencing this marriage, I am a little disgusted with women. In 1997, two years after I divorced, I officially dated a woman. Strictly speaking, this was my first time dating. I was 29 years old at the time and realized the first time I felt about falling in love. I wanted to maintain a relationship with her, but I never thought about getting married, and I had some shadows about marriage. I didn't expect that the plan could not keep up with the changes. In 1999, she said she was pregnant again. In 1998, she had abortion for me, and she said that she might not be able to have children after another abortion. That year, we got married with a daughter..."

"After getting married, she seemed to be a different person. Anyway, it was very different from before marriage. I thought that a woman who was pregnant had a big temper, so she kept tolerating her. Who knew that after giving birth, she became even stronger, which was simply unreasonable. Later I found that this woman was very scheming and many things were designed by her. Including her pregnancy, she arranged them. She told me that it was a safe period, but it was actually not safe at all. That's fine, my daughter was my biological child, and they were all a family.

I thought I would also plan to forgive him. Later, there was something I couldn't bear. When I was in love with her, she was very filial to my mother. After getting married, it felt that it was not the case. In 2004, my mother got seriously ill and took my mother to live in the house for several months. She was always sarcastic. The implicit meaning was that I should send my mother to my brother's house, which made me very uncomfortable. After this, I had a crack with her that I could not make up for. In 2006, I left her..."

Listening to Lao Zhang’s story, the image of this uncle became full in my heart. Who would have thought that this chubby middle-aged uncle who looks like a big shot or a kid had such a story behind it?

After a while of vicissitudes, Lao Zhang suddenly became vulgar: "My third marriage is very unpleasant. From the perspective of domestic people, it cannot be considered a marriage at all. In 2008, I was forty years old. I planned to go out to celebrate my birthday and participated in a seven-day trip to Las Vegas. It turns out that there are 41 flowers for men. One night I met a blonde girl. I only knew a few English words, and it was a problem to communicate with her. I was drunk at that time. I nodded whatever she said, but she took me to a small church for a wedding. You know, in that place, as long as I have a passport and a $55 handling fee, even if I get married... This is ridiculous. It gets together quickly and is divorced quickly."

When I heard this, I envy Lao Zhang.

As a post-60s generation, he has done a lot of things that the post-90s generation has not done.

I heard Lao Zhang say again: "I'll share it here today, next one."

I noticed Lao Zhang's face and found that he was relaxed. This made me very curious. When a person talked out a lot of heavy things in his heart, would it be as relaxed as Lao Zhang?

At this time, a brother who looked a little shy on the right side of Lao Zhang said, "My name is Lao Yang, I am 34 years old this year. I..." This gentleman didn't look very confident and spoke intermittently: "I have only been married once, and I have only divorced once..."

Everyone laughed. This guy was talking interestingly. Could it be that he could divorce twice after getting married?

In our smiles, Lao Yang felt even more embarrassed: "I never had a relationship when I was in school. I had a crush on a girl in high school and never dared to confess. Later, she went to bed with a famous gangster in our school and had an abortion. The whole school knew... I don't understand why the girls in middle school like young and dandy. When I heard her news, I cried secretly. More than ten years have passed, and no one knows that I have liked her, and she will never know that I have shed tears for her..."

Immersed in my memories, Lao Yang's tone became fluent: "I had a bad college entrance examination score and barely went to a junior college. When I was in my sophomore year, I finally plucked up the courage to confess to a girl, but I was rejected..."

I looked at Lao Yang, and this ordinary man shocked me.

I have read a statistics before, saying that 35% of Chinese men have never been in love before graduating from college. Seeing Lao Yang, I finally agreed with this statement. There are too many people like this in real life.

Lao Yang said again: "Shame, I have been working for several years, but there is still no woman who can like me. Later, my family really couldn't stand it anymore, so they asked someone to be a matchmaker and introduce me to a blind date. I was born in the 21st century and even wanted others to be a matchmaker to complete my marriage. Blind dates are not that easy, not that I look down on others, but that others don't like me. When I went on a blind date for the fourth time, I finally met a woman who barely liked me. We had no emotional foundation. After two months of getting along, we got married under the arrangement of the two families. This is my marriage..."

I felt chill all over, and Lao Yang’s story had a terrifying reality.

If the data is reliable and Lao Yang can represent 35% of a certain group, it means that tens of millions of men in this country live a hopeless life like Lao Yang and experience a desperate marriage like Lao Yang.

Lao Yang: "I divorced last year was proposed by her. She looked down on me. She regretted it after getting married. The child also followed her, but I couldn't fight her. I thought about committing suicide. I have been so unpromising in my life. It's really meaningless to live. Later, a friend introduced me here. With everyone's help, my situation improved a lot. But I still don't know if I can find the relationship I want. My request is very simple. I just want to find a woman who really looks down on me."

"You are so terrible. You look down on yourself from beginning to end. How can you expect those women to like you?" I finally couldn't help but interrupt. Lao Yang's story touched me deeply.

Everyone looked at me in surprise. Old Yang's face turned pale and blue. After a long time, he said, "What you said makes sense. I am just not confident and timid. Actually, I have teased girls online, but in reality, I am timid and I am afraid of being faced with girls. Even if I have three sticks, I can't beat a single thing."

"Then have you ever fallen in love online?" I asked him, I thought, if a man has been in love online, he has experienced emotional ups and downs, and it is better than never having a relationship in his life.

Lao Yang said weakly: "Once, I don't know if it's considered an online dating."

Everyone was surprised and looked at me with the look of looking at my idol brother. Then Lao Zhang sighed: "Okay, Lao Yang, we used to think you were innocent all your life, but I didn't expect you to have an online dating secretly. Tell me what's going on."

Perhaps recalling the only experience related to love in my life, Lao Yang's face turned slightly red: "In 2002, I just started working and played online games while idle. It was a NetEase game, the famous XX Journey to the West 2. That summer, the game was officially charged. A MM in my friend said she didn't click the card, so I bought her a click. Later, she married me in the game, but I always felt that she was with me because I often got some cards for her..."

Lao Zhang comforted him: "Don't be so unconfident, maybe she loves you in a heart that makes her heart unable to speak."

Lin Shao interrupted, "Have you seen her? Have you ever seen her? Have you ever had a video?"

Lao Yang: "There were no videos in that era? I remember that cameras became popular after SARS in 2003."

Lao Zhang: "What do you mean? You mean you are married to someone you have never met online, so he may be a shemale, right?"

Lao Yang thought for a while and said, "It shouldn't be."

Lao Zhang: "Why are you so sure?"

Lao Yang: "I have seen her photos, they look pretty good, and they look like a typical female college student. At that time, uploading photos was very complicated, so I had to go to the Internet cafe to scan it. She said she wanted to see me, so I went to the Internet cafe to scan a photo for her."

Lao Zhang: "What happened later?"

Old Yang lowered his head and murmured: "Later she never played games again..."

Lao Zhang: "..."

Lin Shao: “…”

All of us: "…"
Chapter completed!