The harm of Internet addiction is really great. In order to quit Internet addiction in their children's hearts and to save their children, they will go to extremes. These people have changed some of their life concepts and made their minds completely different from normal people, just like those patients with Stockholm syndrome.

Stockholm syndrome, Stockholm effect, also known as Stockholm syndrome or hostage complex or hostage syndrome, refers to a complex in which the victim of the crime has feelings for the perpetrator, and even in turn helps the perpetrator. This emotion causes the victim to have a good impression of the perpetrator, dependence, and even assist the perpetrator.

Hostages will develop a psychological dependence on the hijackers. Their life and death control is in the hands of the hijackers, and they are grateful for the hijackers.

They share their destiny with the hijackers, regard the future of the hijackers as their own, and regard the safety of the hijackers as their own. So they adopt the attitude of "we oppose them" and regard the rescuer as their enemies.

On August 23, 1973, two criminals with criminals, Jane Kolsson and Clarkolofsson, failed to rob the largest bank in the capital Stockholm, and ended after the police stalemate with the criminal for 130 hours.

However, a few months after the incident, the four bank staff who were hostage still showed compassion for the kidnappers, who refused to accuse the kidnappers in court and even raised funds for legal defense for them. They all expressed their gratitude for the criminals not only because they did not hurt them but because they were caring for them. They also took a hostile attitude towards the police.

What's more, one of the hostages, a female employee, actually fell in love with the robber Olofsson and got engaged to him while serving his sentence.

The two robbers took hostages for six days, during which they threatened the lives of the captured persons, but sometimes showed a kind side. In an unexpected psychological intricate change, the four hostages resisted the government's efforts to eventually rescue them.

This incident inspired social scientists to understand the emotional union between the accused and the hostage. Is it an exception in this Stockholm bank robbery, or is it a common psychological reaction?

Later studies showed that this incident, which scholars called "Stockholm syndrome", was surprisingly common.

The researchers found that examples of this syndrome were found in a variety of experiences, from prisoners, prisoners of war, abuse-inducing women and victims of incest, all of which could experience Stockholm syndrome.

Experts conduct in-depth research: There is a fragile bottom line for fear of human performance. When a person encounters a fierce killer, the killer is unreasonable and takes his life at any time. The hostage will gradually entrust the right of life to the murderer.

As time goes by, the hostages eat a bite of rice and drink a sip of water. Every breath he himself feels that the terrorists are tolerant and compassion for him.

His fear of the thug who kidnapped him will first turn into gratitude for him, and then into a kind of worship. In the end, the hostages subconsciously think that the safety of the murderer is his own safety.

This weakness of succumbing to tyranny is called "Stockholm Psychiatric Syndrome".

Explanation of evolutionary psychology. Psychoanalytics view that newborn babies form an emotional attachment to the closest powerful adult to maximize the possibility that the surrounding adult can at least survive (or become an ideal parent), and this syndrome may develop from this. Stockholm syndrome is an important example of the role identity defense mechanism.

People can be domesticated - Stockholm syndrome.

According to research by psychologists, people who are emotionally dependent on others and are easily moved will easily develop Stockholm syndrome and Stockholm syndrome, which usually have the following characteristics:

The first is to make you feel that your life is threatened. Let you feel it, but as for whether it is going to happen, it may not be necessary. Then you will never hesitate to believe that the abuser will do this at any time.

Second, if you meet the requirements of the perpetrator, he will definitely give you a small favor. This is the most critical condition for the occurrence of Stockholm syndrome, such as giving you water when you feel desperate.

Third, you will only give you the information and thoughts that he has controlled and screened. No other information will be allowed to you, and it will completely eliminate the possibility of you obtaining external information and thoughts.

Fourth, it makes you feel like you have no way out.

As long as these four conditions are met, people will develop Stockholm syndrome.

In the "Ring of Internet Addiction" program broadcast by CCTV's "News-Investigation", parents' performance at that time was another manifestation of "Stockholm Syndrome":

The first manifestation here is: When parents send their children to the Internet Ring Center, although their children are not threatened by their lives, their children's long-term behavior of online access makes parents feel very painful.

This makes them feel that if they don’t send their children here, their children’s lives will be dark and their families will have no hope. In this case, parents will always feel threats from the Internet.

The second manifestation here is: After Director Yang's "treatment", the changes in children's behavior made parents see some hope.

The third manifestation here is: the scenes parents see are what the so-called Internet addiction treatment institutions are willing to let them see, and what parents know about is what the so-called Internet addiction treatment institutions want them to understand.

However, the so-called Internet addiction treatment institutions do not fully understand the consequences and harms of this behavioral treatment, as well as the qualifications that the implementers of this behavioral treatment should have.

Therefore, in this case, parents' information has been artificially sifted away.

The fourth manifestation here is: Only here can save their children, and everything will be done without this place.

Because the above four conditions are met in some online ring centers, "Stockholm Syndrome" is constantly spreading among the parents. This is why others hurt their children, but parents are unanimous in their voices to applaud the perpetrators!

In fact, it is not difficult to change this point, that is, parents need to get out of these four conditions and see more content.

The first thing is to let parents see that their children like to go online is not a problem for their children, but a trend of the times. Therefore, children like to go online is not the end point of the family or the destruction point of their children's life.

On this issue, what parents need is not to label their children as addicted to the Internet, nor to be afraid of the words addicted to the Internet. Instead, they literate themselves to learn about the Internet and use them!

Regarding the second article, parents should be advised to see that the behavioral changes caused by children under the "treatment" of so-called Internet addiction treatment institutions are not real growth, but a deception under high pressure.

In addition, parents should pay more attention to the current situation of children who have been treated in the so-called Internet addiction treatment institutions. If parents pay attention to this, they will find that in this Internet Ring Center, some children have already entered and exited seven times.

From this point of view alone, the so-called treatment of the so-called Internet addiction treatment institutions failed because the child's Internet addiction was not withdrawn, but the parents' addiction to sending their children to the Internet abstinence center was developed.

When parents understand the truth, the second myth of the healing effect is shattered.

Regarding the third article, parents should be aware that before sending their children to such Internet addiction treatment institutions, they can use some channels - such as the Internet or consulting with other professionals. They have a general understanding of this treatment to maximize their protection. Instead of having no understanding of this electrical stimulation treatment before and after sending their children to the Internet Ring Center, they have nothing to understand about this electrical stimulation treatment, and everything is followed by the arrangements of the staff here.

It should be noted that when implementing electrical stimulation aversion therapy, there are strict regulations on the implementer: first, the implementer has a psychotherapist qualification certificate for behavioral therapy. It is not enough to have a mental health practitioner certificate alone;

Secondly, professional institutions are required to train them for psychological counseling and treatment.

These requirements have been clearly stipulated in major cities such as Peking and Mingzhu, so as to maximize the protection of the rights and interests of the treated persons and are also a further regulation of the rights and obligations of medical workers in the field of mental health.

In addition, even if this treatment can be performed on the patient, there are still many basic precautions that the patient and his/her guardian must understand:

1. Aversion therapy can bring unpleasant, even painful experiences to patients. Therefore, it should be the last choice that must be taken in psychological counseling and treatment, and should not be used too much.

2. Before using it, explain it to the patient clearly and obtain his consent to obtain his close cooperation.

3. When performing aversion treatment, pay attention to helping patients establish discernible conditional responses, that is, negatively strengthening bad behaviors, positively strengthening benign behaviors, and cooperate to stimulate positively strengthening if necessary.

During implementation, the following steps must be carried out:

1. Test the ability of participants before allowing the use of the plan.

2. Before using the plan, let each implementer experience the taste of electric shock.

3. Establish special personnel to arrange shifts and classes.

4. Records that are confirmed by supervisors and basic treatment personnel separately during each shift or class must be kept.

Only when parents understand each requirement and every step of electrical stimulation treatment can parents decide whether to provide such treatment to their children.

As long as parents have this alertness and start from these four points, they can quickly see the essence of the matter. Once the implementer violates the regulations or abuses electrical stimulation, the parents can stop or question the other party, thereby protecting their children to the greatest extent. There will be no strange scenes that others hurt my children, but I applaud them.

When we parents constantly use "If you are disobedient, I will send you to others" to intimidate our children, or if the children do not meet the expectations of their parents and do not satisfy their parents, parents will scold and beat and scold the children, which will make the children feel nervous, anxious, fearful, and abandoned;

If the child meets the expectations of his parents, the child will be rewarded; only let the child think according to his own thinking mode - then we are already the creators of "Stockholm Syndrome".

It can be said that this kind of syndrome is not uncommon around us. Only when parents have a clear consciousness in their hearts can they eventually bring peace to their families than to avoid becoming another maker and patient of "Stockholm Syndrome".

If you don’t want your child to be a victim of this syndrome and your family’s warmth to pass away, please ask parents and friends to start from the above four points and reflect on your words and deeds when educating your children. Don’t do anything to achieve the so-called effect you want!

Finally, it should be noted that the word Internet addiction is just a written word and it has not been truly included in medical records.

The theory of Internet addiction originated from American doctor Gordon Berg. Like most medical terms, "Internet addiction" is an imported product. The difference is that it was a joke at the beginning.

In 1995, American psychiatrist Ivan Gordonberg spoofed the authoritative "Diagnostic Manual of Mental Diseases (dsm-iv)" and imitated its description of gambling addiction and fabricated the word "interaddiction disorder (iad).

Unexpectedly, by chance, the word was loved by peers and soon became popular in the media. It had no irony.

The creator of "Internet Addiction" and many of his peers still regard Internet addiction as a joke.

The initiator, Dr. Gordonberg, believes that Internet addiction is not a real addiction. Overemphasis on it can lead to any habits that can be called a disease. For example, some people take a phone call and some people are addicted to golf. Do they all have to open specialties for treatment?

In addition, some people believe that even if there is phone addiction and golf addiction, Internet addiction is not valid. Because the Internet is not an item, but a living environment. You cannot say that a person who loves his own community is suffering from home romance.

There is really a word in China called "homesickness", but it is a literary metaphor, and there is no special clinic in the hospital.

Many facilities for quitting Internet addiction claim that "Internet addiction" is a very serious disease abroad. However, in 2007, the American Medical Association rejected the American Psychiatric Association's suggestion that "Internet addiction" is included in the "Diagnostic Manual of Mental Illness".

At the same time, as far as foreign countries are concerned, no medical institution claims that "Internet addiction" is a disease or an adverse symptom.

To be honest, the Internet has indeed opened the door to convenience for some mental illnesses.

For example, people with sex-addicted people can spend all day watching pornographic movies online; for shoppers, shopping online saves time and effort; a procrastinator will find that various information on the Internet makes him unable to stop; not to mention a game maniac or a gambler, but what you need to treat is these habits and diseases themselves, rather than asking them to quit the Internet.

The simplest example is that you go to "Baidu Know" and ask: "What should I do if I have bulimia?" Some netizens replied: "Go to the hospital to get the stomach removed." Is this the answer you want?! It's obvious, obviously not.

However, it is strange that the Chinese media and medical community quickly introduced the term "Internet addiction". What is even more surprising is that you can hardly see the controversy in Chinese materials, and you can't see the other side of the controversy.

You would think that Internet addiction, as a new disease, has declared war on the future of mankind, and the most outstanding medical experts in the world have bravely joined this battle and are very busy.

Therefore, many doctors who support Internet addiction treatment are striving for official recognition from their own country.

In the promotional materials of Chinese medical institutions, Internet addiction is portrayed as a flood of beasts, various mental illnesses, and symptoms of mental illnesses, such as depression, slow thinking, dizziness, trembling hands, fatigue, poor food and drink, wanting to commit suicide or even endanger others, you can write them in.

Some "mind people" even say unsurprisingly that Internet addiction degenerates nature and turns into animal nature.

Many parents do not know how to communicate with their children, nor do they understand what the Internet is. They only know that their children are addicted to Internet cafes all day long. When they hear this threat from "authoritative experts", they naturally think that they are willing to hand over their children to him for the so-called "Internet addiction".

This is a serious self-deception. Society does not recognize the failure of its own education programs, and parents do not recognize the inappropriate education methods.

When the word "Internet addiction" appears, parents, schools, and society unanimously push the responsibility to an environment where they cannot bear any responsibility. People would rather immerse themselves in dreams of deceiving themselves than face their own failures. The victims of this self-deception are innocent children.

They take it for granted by electric shocks and other means that directly threaten children's physiological and mental health. Many children choose to give up their self-esteem under this persecution.

Reliance on the Internet is the general trend of historical progress, while online games are a cheap entertainment method nowadays. What society needs is not a physical and spiritual persecution of "Internet addiction treatment". Instead, it should be guided.

Good parents should learn how to guide their children to the Internet and deepen communication between parents and children, rather than handing them over to so-called Internet addiction facilities. This practice has no benefit except increasing the barrier between parents and children.

Those experts who promote "Internet addiction" rely on it to gain reputation and resources, and treatment institutions rely on it to make money. How they hope that all netizens think they are sick and become their customers.

In this way, it will be big when you come to China.

What’s very humorous is that I also saw Chinese experts seriously introduce Gordonberg’s ideas and regard him as the founder of Internet addiction treatment.

Therefore, many people regard the so-called Internet addiction as a self-written and directed movie, and do not recognize the existence of the word Internet addiction at all.

To sum up, when faced with Internet addiction, our parents should take it correctly. Even if your child really has Internet addiction, the best way is to use family affection to resolve it. This is the most correct and safest way. (To be continued, please search for Astronomy, novels are better, updated and faster!

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