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192、Who to talk to?

192, who should I tell you

The problem of asking for help when Yan Xile registered when making an appointment was "inner conflict". In fact, almost all forms of psychological problems were manifestations of inner conflicts, such as anxiety, tension, regret, self-blame, loss, depression, etc. Dean Yan probably couldn't describe what kind of psychological troubles he had, so he registered such a general statement.

A medical dispute occurred in Jinghu University Affiliated Hospital Week, and the time of the change was mainly aimed at Dean Yan, but what made Yan Xile depressed was that he was not present at the time.

Many universities have living areas for faculty and staff on campus, which are mainly divided into two types: one is the expert building where school leaders and well-known experts live, and the other is the single apartment where young workers live. Liu Feng lives in the expert building, while Ding Qi once lived in a single dormitory.

The expert building in Jinghu University campus has long been occupied by previous school leaders and famous big-name experts. Yan Xile is relatively young and has no house when it is his turn. So he lives in a community near the school, not far away, and takes two bus stops to Dongdamen. If the weather is good, you can walk.

That afternoon, Yan Xile walked out of the house as usual. As a famous surgical expert, he had both teaching tasks and medical work. He should have been to the affiliated hospital on this day. It would take about twenty minutes to get to the hospital. On the street outside the community, a van was parked in front of a small supermarket, and someone was unloading the goods.

The unloader was a truck driver. He opened the door of the car box and moved pieces of mineral water out, and listened to cartons such as beer and instant noodles. The owner of the small supermarket stood below and continued. After the goods were unloaded, the driver was not careful when he got off the car and stood unsteadily and suddenly fell down. He happened to be seen by Yan Xile who was walking over from a distance.

When Yan Xile got closer, she found something was wrong. The supermarket owner wanted to help the truck driver up, but the truck driver covered his chest and ribs with pain, and his face turned purple and seemed to be unable to breathe. Out of professional sensitivity, Yan Xile immediately stopped the supermarket owner from helping the driver up, gave the injured a simple examination, and reminded the boss to call 120 to call an ambulance.

Unfortunately, this fall was injured in the ribs and caused pneumothorax. The situation was very serious and life-threatening. It seemed that if the ambulance could die from breathing difficulties if it could not wait for the ambulance to arrive. Director Yan made a quick decision and took materials from the small supermarket. After simple disinfection, he underwent an emergency surgical operation for puncture and exhaust.

The ambulance arrived about twenty minutes later, and the road was a little congested during the rush hour. The hotel owner called 120. The dispatch of medical and mental aid was based on the principles of near-term treatment and convenient transportation. The ambulance sent did not send the injured to the Affiliated Hospital of Jinghu University, but instead sent it to the Jiangguan District People's Hospital in another direction.

The ambulance staff were also surprised when they arrived. Unexpectedly, someone could have had a puncture surgery in time under such a simple condition, saving the injured person's life. They did not know Yan Xile, and Dean Yan reported his identity and walked with the ambulance.

Yan Xile does not trust the doctors in the district hospital. He did the emergency surgery. He knew the situation best. The injured person had to be sent to the hospital for formal treatment. He had to explain some precautions. Yan Xile was also worried that if the patient was on the road or had another accident after being sent to the hospital, not only would the patient be in danger, but it would be difficult for him to explain clearly.

After arriving at Jiangguan District People's Hospital and confirming that the injured was in danger, Yan Xile sat in the dean's office and chatted for a while before leaving. When he arrived at the Affiliated Hospital of Jinghu University, he was nearly three hours late.

A surgical expert saved a life on Banlu. Although it was just a very simple operation for Dean Yan, he was proud enough. This behavior is worthy of praise, and such a person is also worthy of respect.

But on that afternoon, something happened to Jinghu University Affiliated Hospital. An emergency room admitted a trauma patient and died after failed rescue. The patient's family was very sad, but no other accident happened at that time.

Two intern nurses on duty in the emergency room said something while chatting privately. One nurse said: "The doctor seems to be under a lot of mental pressure because he was not rescued and hid outside to smoke. He was in a depressed mood when he looked."

Another nurse said: "After all, I'm still young. It seems that this is the first time I have encountered such a thing. I've had more experience. If it were Dean Yan, probably wouldn't... Hey, where did Dean Yan go? He is the doctor's supervisor."

The nurse said earlier: "Yes, Dean Yan is on duty today, why haven't he come yet? Dean Yan, maybe he can..."

In fact, Yan Xile called the office after arriving at the district hospital and said that he would come late if he had something to delay. The office told him that there was nothing wrong in the hospital so that he would not have to worry. But the two intern nurses didn't know about this situation, and no one would notify them specifically.

It is hard to say what the conversation between these two nurses meant. What they said should not be that the doctor's medical level is problematic, but the doctor is indeed young and has not encountered too many such situations before. I watched the emergency patients not being rescued and their ability to bear is still weak, so I feel psychologically depressed and depressed.

In fact, this reaction has nothing to do with age or experience, but more experienced people have experienced enough to know how to adjust themselves. However, these words happened to be heard by the families of the deceased, and they have another understanding of this.

There was a well-known surgical expert who was supposed to be on duty in the hospital but did not come. When the injured were sent to the emergency room, he could only be responsible for another young doctor who had no experience, which led to the ineffective rescue death... This logic seems to be valid, not to mention that the family members are in the pain of losing their loved ones and need to find a way to vent their emotions.

The conversation between the two nurses clearly mentioned Dean Yan. If you just need to ask a little, you will know who Dean Yan is. He should have been in the hospital that afternoon but he did not come. Some things cannot be assumed, but they cannot prevent people from making various assumptions and then finding the one that suits them best.

If President Yan was present at the time, the injured might not have died. It was because of the doctor's lack of experience and President Yan's unsuccessful resignation that led to the death of the injured. Therefore, President Yan, doctor and hospital should be responsible for this... Once the emotions are amplified, it will be difficult to control them anymore. Yan Xile was not only complained by the family of the deceased, but also encountered various attacks.

Of course, it is impossible for the hospital to throw Dean Yan out of the blame. Dean Yan's lateness has nothing to do with the death of the injured, nor does it affect the normal work of the emergency room. Of course, he is not the only surgeon in the hospital. Dean Yan is here, and it will not be his turn. After Director Yan checked the medical records and emergency surgery records, he firmly denied that the doctor had made any mistakes in his handling.

In fact, there was no way to even discuss the medical accident in this incident, and the complaint was of course unsuccessful. But this result angered the family of the deceased, so they exposed the matter to the media. The main content of the communication was: the surgical expert left his post without any help, and the emergency patient died after failed rescue.

Once public opinion is incited, Dean Yan feels tremendous pressure and he feels powerless.

Although he could declare that he was late because he was saving people on Banlu, this statement itself seemed to be a defense of the party at fault. In fact, his lateness had nothing to do with the death of the patient. If this was emphasized, it would be like acknowledging the responsibility of the hospital and Dr. Ding, including him, just to save his reputation. This left him speechless.

So Dean Yan asked Ding Qi if he had read Jinghu News recently, which was referring to this matter.

The family of the deceased constructed a logic of events, which can be fully supported by public opinion; and after being supported by public opinion, it once again intensified their out-of-control emotions. They ran to the hospital and blocked the dean's office and tried to directly attack Yan Xile. This dramatic incident was finally calmed down in another more dramatic way.

President Yan rescued a truck driver on Ban Road. After the truck driver learned his identity, he also came to the hospital to thank him for saving his life, but saw this scene. He was also very angry and impulsive. He called a group of workers on a phone call, holding his hands and big pliers, and beat the people who were blocking the dean's outdoors to flee. Finally, the other party called the police.

In fact, the hospital called the police first, but the police successfully dissuaded the family of the deceased and suddenly came again. Both parties who fought in the hospital were eventually taken to the police station by the police.

But the police station is not easy to deal with, so they can only mediate and criticize and educate both parties. Although one party was beaten to the point of bruising and swollen, he was not seriously injured. In the end... he could only disperse like this. The truck drivers took the blame and threatened the other party after leaving the police station. If they dared to ask President Yan for unreasonable reasons, they would beat him once and every time they saw him.

When encountering such a thing, the families of the deceased seem to be able to use the power of public opinion again, such as hype that the hospital not only avoids responsibility, but also hires idle people in society to beat the families of the deceased. But this time, they did not choose to do so. Perhaps they have calmed down, or perhaps for other reasons. In short, in the eyes of bystanders, the situation has subsided.

The families of the deceased are just ordinary people, and they themselves do not have the ability to manipulate social public opinion. The reason why it caused a craze for public opinion before was that this unilateral topic that could attract social attention was fermenting and spreading in the mass media.

But the second incident seemed to have no hype value. A group of people blocked the door and besieged a doctor, and the doctor rescued a truck driver. The group accused the doctor of not saving people on the road. As a result, a group of truck drivers beat the group up, and then the police station released both parties after criticism and education.

There is nothing to be discussed in this matter, and it is impossible to find the explosive point that guides public opinion. It is also the saying that it is difficult to lead the rhythm.

Although the situation has subsided, Yan Xile's heart is difficult to remain peaceful. First of all, he is a scholar. Like many scholars, he attaches great importance to reputation, reputation and social influence. President Yan is not without news reports, but in the past those news reports on what achievements he has achieved, commends, and events he has participated in or attended, and there is not much public attention.

This is the first time he has become the focus of public opinion, and it is in a very negative image, such as the collapse of evaluation of life. After an intellectual makes achievements in academics, he often cares about whether he can have a good social image, so this kind of experience has hit Yan Xile particularly hard, and he has no place to reason with it.

Yan Xile has been insomnia for almost a week, but in school and hospital, he pretended to be nothing, not wanting others to see what kind of ideological burden he had. At least in his social circle, no one criticized him, and expressed condolences. The school leaders also clearly told him that he had not made any mistakes in this incident and that the behavior of saving people should be commended.

But Yan Xile himself tried his best to avoid mentioning the matter of saving people in Banlu, because it would remind him of more unpleasant and even unacceptable things.

After listening to Dean Wanyan’s story, Ding Qi also sighed secretly. Dean Yan’s psychological problems are indeed inner conflicts, and may be the most serious one. The conflict between the life philosophy he adheres to and social reality. Although Dean Yan is a surgical expert, he also understands psychology, but he cannot solve the pressure from "self".

Ding Qi tried to smile gently and said, "Director Yan, you are actually very clear about the right or wrong of the matter. If anyone wants to say something, I'm afraid you will understand it too. But the conflict in your heart cannot be resolved, so you came to me."

Yan Xile smiled and said, "Yes, I understand some psychology, but in fact, I am here today to talk to you to relieve depression."

Ding Qi: "You really didn't save the wrong person. The truck driver is very righteous! I'm a little good. How could he call a group of truck drivers on one phone and help him do it together?"

It seemed like a simple chat, Ding Qi's expression and tone were relaxed, but his spirit was highly focused and his brain was also running rapidly. The information about this series of events was too large, and he was also looking for the most suitable entry point for the talks in the process of building the heart book, as if he was talking about this topic casually.

Yan Xile smiled again: "Xiao Ding, you don't know much about the situation, I only found out later. This group of truck drivers were originally from a state-owned fleet, but later the company was acquired and they were laid off. The driver named Bu was originally the captain of the fleet, and he also had some resources to pull the team out for freight and joined a logistics company.

They usually use walkie-talkies to contact each other on the road. Whenever they encounter something, the drivers who are free will come here. There are more than twenty cars in total. Xiao Bu is the head of this group of people. He usually drives and delivers goods. He is very appealing..."

Ding Qi: "Oh, so that's the case. This person is really good!"

Dean Yan nodded and echoed: "Yes, I think so too."

Ding Qi's words changed and said, "Since Dean Yan understands the truth, I'm afraid I don't want me to ask you a question. The matter itself is very clear. Do you have any questions to ask me?"

Dean Yan: "Yes, yes, yes, I really want to consult with you, an expert for a few questions."

Ding Qi: "The expert dares not be a student. I am also your student. If you have any questions, please ask."

Dean Yan: "Then tell me, should I punish myself, even if it is punished by lateness?"

According to general rules, when such units have caused a great impact, people usually have to bear the responsibility, which is the saying goes. But this time, no one can say that President Yan has any responsibility, and everyone says something comforting. Director Yan also firmly protected the doctor within the hospital, and did not let the doctor bear any responsibility, and did not even deduct the performance bonus for the month.

But Dean Yan was late that day and was almost out of noon. The family of the deceased complained that he had left his post without reason. Although the complaint was unreasonable and was not accepted, Dean Yan was still nervous. Although he saved someone on the road, he was late because he was late. At least he should be deducted a bonus, right?

But who can make such a decision? In fact, the dean has the final say. If it happens to another doctor, what should be done is definitely decided by Dean Yan, but this time it happened to him.

If you don’t deal with yourself at all, Dean Yan feels that it’s not enough to set an example, but if you really do this, Dean Yan feels that it’s too deliberate. It would be too easy to deal with such a big thing afterwards, and it seems that it was done on purpose, and the attitude of seeking fame will arouse more discussion.

Ding Qi smiled: "If the person involved was not you, but another doctor in the hospital, would you be late for him?"

President Yan shook his head: "Of course not! The professional regulations of your psychologists also have various exception principles. Ban Lu encountered a sudden accident, and neither subjective intention nor predicted in advance. You can never be punished late, let alone he should do that. Since I have the right to not punish him, I will definitely not punish him late."

Ding Qi concluded in a timely manner: "So your question is how to face yourself and the self who has encountered all this. You are both the person involved and the audience, and you are imagining more audiences. You seem to care about other people's views on yourself, but what you are actually confused about is the contradiction between self-evaluation and external judgment, which is the root of the inner conflict."

As the dean, whether Yan Xile was late for this time was actually a trivial matter, and no one else would care. If his resignation caused the death of the injured, could it be solved by just a late punishment? But Dean Yan always felt that he should do something, but he was not sure what to do, and this feeling was very distressing.

An academic expert cherishes reputation, hopes to have a good image, and wants to try his best to recover through some means. This mentality is understandable. However, through such a small question, we can see that his self-cognition has been shaken. He is clearly clear about what to do, but he is not so sure.

In fact, most people can see or understand such problems, but many times they know but cannot solve them, and the consolation is ineffective. When Dean Yan found this place, he did not ask Ding Qi to evaluate who is right or wrong. Ding Qi's responsibility is to restore peace to him and let the elder be no longer troubled when he walked out of the psychological clinic.

Dean Yan nodded after hearing this and said, "Yes, as you said, I clearly understand the truth, but I was very uneasy. To be honest, I often feel very weak these days. I clearly told myself that I should face it with it with strength, but I still feel guilty... Tell me, what kind of guilt is there for me?"

Ding Qi: "Director Yan, you seem to have a misunderstanding of the word "strong". Strong is not physically strong or physically, nor is it stubbornly thinking that you are not wrong. You don't have to care about the eyes of others. First of all, it must have a clear, sober, reasonable and healthy self-awareness, and implement it in your behavior to abide by and persist in it. This is a quality of will."

Dean Yan: "Xiao Ding, then what do you think I should do? How can I get rid of this state? If a surgeon is confused, it is not suitable for surgery on the station. I am often distracted even when teaching."
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